PILLAR 1

Friendly eyes

Friendly eyes and good mistakes are the two most important ‘pillars’ on which to base your development as an action thinker. They are the foundation of self-management. If you look with friendly eyes – not just at yourself but also at the world around you – emotions will lose their power over you. This will make you less vulnerable, since you will not take everything personally. Here is an example: ‘If my opponent tries to disrupt my game with intimidating comments or behaviour, I shall not get irritated or see it as a personal attack. I will not let it influence me. In fact I can even understand why he or she might act that way.’
‘Friendly eyes’ is a state of mind that every sportsman should pursue.